One in four women admit to maliciously posting unflattering photos of their friends wearing bikinis online.
A recent survey of 1,500 women over the age of 18 revealed that 25% have deliberately posted unsavory photos of their friends, either seeking retribution or because they’d had a falling out.
The survey, conducted by the photo gift website MyMemory.com, also showed that 75% of those surveyed routinely “de-tag” themselves from photos they felt were unflattering, though 20% said they would not remove photos if they were asked to by a friend.
Even though a substantial number of participants were willing to humiliate and embarrass friends, a full two-thirds responded that they would be angry with others for doing the same to them.
“The etiquette of tagging friends in photographs on social networking sites is a tricky one to master, and with so many pitfalls, we wanted to look into women’s relationships with the photographs they upload to the sites in question.” -Rebecca Huggler, MyMemory.com
While this survey solely targeted women the practice is certainly not unique to the fairer sex. The unisex practice of photographing passed-out friends covered in whipped cream and permanent marker, known as “chiefing”, made a home of the internet long before the advent of social networking.
Marker-moustaches aside, what may start as a mischievous jab at a friend, could quickly escalate to cyberbullying. Although tempting, revenge is rarely the best course of action, here’s how you can protect yourself without stooping to their level.
Facebook allows users to remove a “Tag” of themselves from any photo, regardless of who uploaded it or tagged you it. Removing a tag of yourself in a photo disassociates that photo from your account making it less likely that other users will come across it in connection to you. First open the photo in Facebook, depending on which photo viewer you are using, you will see the option Report/Remove Tag at the bottom right either in the Options menu or among a list of options as seen in the screenshots below.
Once you’ve selected Report/Remove Tag you will be presented with a dialog box. From this dialog you can select I want to remove this tag as the simplest of options or for more serious issues you may flag the photo for review/removal by Facebook staff.
If you select I want to remove this tag you will be presented with a second dialog box asking whether you would like to Remove the tag [Your Friend] created, Ask [Your Friend] to take the photo down or Block [Your Friend]. Here you must evaluate your relationship with this person, what are the chances they will remove the photo if you ask? In many cases it’s best to just remove the tag, since users are not informed when tags are removed from photos they will most likely not even notice — however, asking them to remove the photo may just draw more attention to it. The third option, Block [Your Friend], will add the user to your block list and prevent them from tagging you in the future, they won’t get a notification but chances are they’ll notice that you blocked them eventually. For the record Bobby, I like this photo, I just needed an example.
Once you’ve untagged yourself, you may actually want to unfriend the offender. Fellow blogger Rhonda Callow covered how to accomplish this in an earlier post, How to unfriend someone on Facebook.
It’s one thing to post your own epic fails, but quite another for so-called friends to post them. With employers checking the Facebook profiles of job candidates it’s increasingly important to properly manage your online profiles and the resulting reputation — a daunting task if your friends are trying their best to embarrass and humiliate you.
What is your friend tagging etiquette? Do you remove photos when a friend requests it?
[via The Telegraph]